How Should I Behave at a Sikh Funeral?

In Sikhism,when a person passes, they have taken the next step on the journey to becomingone with God (Waheguru). This is a cycle, as all souls were once a part of God,they will return to God. The body is merely a vessel on this journey. Since thesoul cannot die, Sikhs do not mourn the decedent. Instead, they celebrate thosethey have lost and pray the decedent’s soul will return to God. These beliefsinfluence how you should act at a Sikh funeral.

At Callaghan Mortuary & Livermore Crematory, we helpfamilies of all faiths celebrate the lives of those they have lost. Along theway, we have picked up a lot of knowledge that may help you show respect forthose who have passed. Here is a touch of what we have learned aboutrespectful behavior during a Sikh funeral.

How to Give Proper Condolences to the Family

Sikhism is a very private and respectful religion. Extensive displays ofgrieving and sadness are not appropriate. After all, those who pass are nottruly gone, but just one step closer to becoming one with God. Keep this inmind when reaching out to the family of the decedent.

The family may appreciate a phone call to express your love for thedeceased. However, do not focus on sadness or loss in your call. Talk about thegood times you had together, and express happiness that the decedent is closerto God.

If the family invites you to the funeral, or any of the ceremonies held oncesomeone has passed, maintain a positive state of mind. Expect hymns, prayersand readings from the Sri Guru Granth Sahib (the Sikh religious scripture). Ifyou are not Sikh, your participation in these rituals is not required. Also,keep in mind that Sikhs disprove of emotional outbursts, so try to remainsubdued and respectful. Sikh funerals usually last between 30 minutes to anhour.

What Is Appropriate Attire for the Funeral?

At a Sikh funeral, smart and modest attire is most appropriate. Avoidshowing too much skin and remember that both men and women should wear headcoverings. In some instances, the family may provide such head coverings, butit does not hurt to have your own ready. You should also avoid wearing fancy,flashy jewelry.

The color of mourning tends to be white, but black, grey, navy or charcoalare also acceptable. However, you should try to avoid bright colors andpatterns. Sikh culture considers brightly colored attire disrespectful atfunerals.

What Gifts Are Appropriate for the Family?

As in many funeral traditions, it is customary (though not required) tobring food to the family of the decedent. In most cases, bringing a vegetariandish that does not contain meat, meat products or alcohol is most appropriate.Some sects of Sikhism have different dietary practices, so consider calling thefamily to ask what they would like.

If you are considering sending flowers to the family, you should also checkwith the family first. Though it is not forbidden, not every Sikh familycelebrates the lives of the deceased with flowers.

How Can Callaghan Mortuary & Livermore Crematory Help?

For over 115 years, our California funeral home has helped families of allfaiths lay their loved ones to rest. We believe in honoring all traditions andfaiths, and ourservices are available to families in need. Call (925) 447-2942 to speak toour staff today.